A common complaint that I hear from older people is that younger parents are not taking enough time with their kids. They point out that Millennials are growing up without a sense of connection to family—that technology has taken over their lives to the point that they lack basic social skills.
I agree that this is true to a certain extent, but the question is always, “what are we going to do about it.”
With Mother’s Day weekend upon us, I think this is the perfect time to come together and support our mothers. Remember, parenting doesn’t come with a manual.
Despite what may appear to be a lack of respect or courtesy from kids today, I’ve met some pretty remarkable young mothers who take parenting very seriously—mothers who teach their kids to be courteous to adults, to say please, excuse me and thank you.
I’ve met young mothers and fathers who show up to teacher conferences and make sure their kids do their homework. So, the next time you find yourself criticizing a young mother, stop and see what you can do to help. Maybe she’s tired or stressed, or feeling overwhelmed by responsibility. Maybe she isn’t aware that her kids are on a slippery slope. If you are an experienced parent, it is easier for you to see the fork in the road, where a child is about to go down the wrong path.
This Mother’s Day, you can put a smile on a young mother’s face by praising their effort. Mothering (and fathering) can be a thankless job at times, and every parent needs to hear what they are doing right. You may want to write them a note, letting them know how great their kids are because of their effort. This can go a long way on those days when there is fear and uncertainty about their parenting.
It truly does take a village to raise a child. But families are often spread across the country. Many kids don’t have the personal, face-to-face support of a grandparent. That’s where an older, wiser, loving parent—blood-related or not—comes in.
Inglewood Today wishes all mothers and mother figures—especially the new and young mothers—a very Happy Mother’s Day.